Communication is key in order to have a successful relationship with your roommate.
During the first week of school at the first hall meeting, you and your roommate
will receive a roommate contract to complete. This contract asks questions about
living styles and allows you and your roommate to set rules in place about visitors,
sleeping and study habits, cleanliness, noise control, and much more. It is important
that you and your roommate take this contract seriously and that each of you are
open and honest about your preferences and opinions. Roommates need to talk about
issues on a regular basis.
Many times, roommates will need to meet with each other throughout the year as issues
come up. Having regular conversations are important to establishing a successful
living situation. When an issue arises with your roommate, you should follow these
1. Your first step should be to discuss the issue with your roommate. Sometimes
an action that might annoy or aggravate one roommate is something that the other
roommate didn’t realize they were even doing. You may also want to refer back to
your roommate contract during these types of discussions.
2. Give your roommate time to make changes. Most students have been living in their
own room and/or house for 18 years. This means that roommates are going to have
different expectations. When you mix your different expectations with different
personalities, you need to be patient with each other and look for compromises.
3. If you and your roommate have tried to work through your issues and you all still
can’t resolve them, you need to contact your RA so a mediation with your RA can
be set up.
Here is a guide
that roommates can use to faciliate their discussion.